6 things newlyweds can do to win over their in-laws

Books and movies often make us believe that marriage is a magical journey, but let's not kid ourselves. Adjusting to this new reality can be a bit like learning to juggle while riding a unicycle. And much like any circus, your new in-laws sit in the centre ring—they are spectators, supporters, and occasionally, the tightrope you need to walk on while sporting a big grin. The initial change might not come easy, but at the end of the day, accepting your partner's life and integrating it with yours is a huge part of any marriage. And yes, we’re talking about the in-laws.

Welcoming new people into our lives as grown-ups can be a daunting task. However, the pressure of getting them to like you can be much more stressful leading you to be a little more careful and conscious around your partner's parents, at least in the initial days after your wedding. To make it a tad bit easier for you, here’s what you can do to get your in-laws to like you.

Allow them some time 

You must remember that your in-laws also trying to adjust. Understand that relationships, especially familial ones, require a natural progression. Give them the space to observe and get to know you at their own pace. This approach not only respects their comfort levels but also allows for a more authentic bond to grow, fostering a relationship that stands the test of time.

Try to keep an open mind

Approach conversations with a genuine curiosity and a willingness to understand their perspectives. Avoid making assumptions or judgments, and instead, try looking at it as an opportunity to learn about their values, experiences, and viewpoints. This will help you understand them better, making the process easier. 

Offer help  in whatever capacity possible 

Whether it's offering assistance with household chores, lending a hand in meal preparation or providing support during family gatherings, your willingness to actively contribute showcases your commitment to being part of the family. This not only eases their burden but also sends a clear message that you value their well-being and care about them on a personal level.

Remember special dates 

Remembering special dates is a thoughtful and considerate way to demonstrate your appreciation and care for your partner's parents. Make an effort to remember and acknowledge important occasions such as birthdays, anniversaries, and other significant events in their lives. This could involve sending a heartfelt card, a small gift, or even a simple phone call to convey your warm wishes. By recognising and celebrating these moments, you not only express your attention to detail but also show that you value their presence in your life. 

Find a common ground 

Finding common ground with your partner's parents is an excellent strategy for building a strong and positive relationship. Identify shared interests, hobbies, or values that you both can connect on. Whether it's a passion for a particular hobby, a love for a certain type of cuisine, or even shared values like family or community involvement, discovering common ground provides a foundation for bonding. This common ground becomes a bridge that strengthens your relationship, making interactions more enjoyable and reinforcing the idea that you can relate to each other on different levels.

Finally, express gratitude 

Take the time to show appreciation for their hospitality, kindness, and the efforts they put into your relationship. A simple "thank you" can go a long way in acknowledging their contributions and making them feel valued.