Matchmaking in the real world: How and why it works

Matches are made in heaven, and by the experts who do it best as well.

Adit Ganguly

Mar 11, 2024

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Matches are made in heaven, and by the experts who do it best as well.

If you're single and on the lookout for a life partner, it's possible that you've been busy swiping on dating apps and matchmaking websites to find your soulmate. Now the concept of matchmaking might sound like an age-old concept and out of tune in modern times. However, matchmaking is a preferred route for many youngsters, especially in a city like Mumbai. You're able to find your ‘happily ever after’ in a safe and private environment without the stress of online dating, which is quite a practical way to find love. The parents are involved in the process of selecting prospective matches, but ultimately the decision lies with the boys and girls themselves.

If you're still on the fence about it, here's everything you need to know about matchmaking.

Professional help, but personal choices

There comes a point where those of marriageable age decide to try the matchmaking route, either through their parents or a professional matchmaker. Now, before you panic and shoot down the idea, remember that they might be involved in the process of selecting prospective matches, but the decision ultimately lies with the boys and girls themselves.

Those who are weary of the idea or suffer from commitment issues might see matchmaking as the only way to embrace a long-term relationship. They prefer to take their time to get to know the person, which is why they are amenable to the system of matchmaking. The process allows them to spend time with the persona, getting to know their likes and dislikes, and eventually determining their compatibility. This renders the practice of matchmaking very acceptable to today's youth.

A personal touch and their network

A professional matchmaker will offer you a personalised service that online dating or matrimonial sites fail to match. And to better this experience, having a one-on-one chat with them is absolutely necessary. It's simple—if they haven’t met you, they probably haven’t met the person they're going to set you up with either. Moreover, meeting with them in person will help them understand what qualities are important to you as you seek a potential spouse.

Furthermore, and we can’t stress this enough, it’s very important to do your research on who you hire—know the type of clients they work with, how many they work with (the more they work with, the less time they give you), what their resources are, and if they offer any guarantees.

Safe and trustworthy

One doesn’t know who they’re talking to in the online world, which makes a user vulnerable to fraud, catfishing, etc. Professional matchmakers offer a safety net by having a thorough screening process for their clients before suggesting them as a potential match. Add to that, they’ve only added them to their roster after speaking to and meeting them in person before starting the matchmaking process, ensuring that there is absolutely no risk involved when two people meet.

You'd rather trust a person who's personally invested in getting you married. This is why matchmaking is so popular. Trust them and meet the people they think will be good for you. All you need to do is show up. Worse case, the date does not go as per your liking. Hiring a professional matchmaker also gives you the chance to let them know about what worked and what didn’t so that they can refine their next search for you (should it not go well). This is a process that will need work from both ends, with constant feedback and input from your end.

Inputs by Match Me founders Mishi Mehta and Tania Sondhi

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