Why we think it is time to normalise counter-proposing

With the ever-evolving nature of relationships and love, one tradition has remained stubbornly unchanged: the proposal. For generations, men have been expected to get down on one knee and ask the big question, while women anxiously wait for their moment. It’s 2024, a time when gender norms are being constantly challenged. So, it’s high time we flip the script for marriage proposals!

We (girls) have truly come a long way—from being girl bosses at work and making our own choices, to living life on our terms. So, why should we sit around and wait for our partners to decide when it’s time to take the next step? It’s time to normalise counter-proposing and empower women to take charge of their own love lives. Here’s the thing: gender norms aren't just restrictive, they’re exhausting. It’s hard to be a homemaker just like it’s hard to be the sole financial provider for your household. Why should we stick to these roles when we can create partnerships that work for us? We’re all about equality in all other aspects of life, so why not in matters of the heart? 

The idea that only men can propose is outdated. Why drop endless hints and hope your partner gets the message when you can just speak the truth? Imagine the rush of confidence that comes with the saying “I want to spend the rest of my life with you. Will you choose me too?” By normalising women proposing, we are making healthy dialogue and self-expression more acceptable in romantic relationships. If you’re still in doubt, let’s not forget celebrities who’ve already paved the way! Priyanka Chopra Jonas, Kim Kardashian, and Blake Lively all took the plunge and popped the question themselves. If it’s good enough for them, it’s good enough for us!

We know what you’re thinking: What about the grand romantic gesture? The surprise? Who says you can’t have that when you propose? Whether it’s a flash mob at the Eiffel Tower or a heartfelt conversation over dinner, planning it yourself is just as gratifying. The most important thing is that it should come from your heart.

When it comes to proposing, confidence is key. Feeling nervous is completely normal! Don’t let the fear hold you back from expressing your intentions. There’s nothing shameful or embarrassing about wanting to commit to someone you love. At the end of the day, it’s a deeply personal choice. It’s not about following trends or pleasing others, it’s about what feels right for you and your relationship. So if you’ve been dreaming of forever with your partner, why wait? Take the leap, pop the question, and write your own love story.

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