How to deal with major life changes after marriage

If we believe the words of philosophers, the phenomenon of change is supposedly ‘inevitable’ and ‘for the better’. But if the concept was as easy to live as it sounds, most of us would have made a career switch or left our lives behind to start a new one within a heartbeat. 

While constant change is important for personal growth, it’s quite taxing. It comes with a side of a whole lot of overthinking, a million breakdowns, a few panic attacks, and an irresistible urge to say ‘I quit' at the drop of a hat. And well, when looming change called 'marriage' knocks at your door, it can be seem overwhelming and unnerving, as it means hitting reset after spending a good two to three decades (or sometimes more) being and doing things a certain way. 

Here are some tips that may help you deal with life changes after marriage:

Listen and observe 

The rule of thumb for adjusting to new surroundings is to listen and observe. Try observing your partner's day-to-day habits in terms of what they like and dislike. This will help you know them at a deeper level and help you understand how you feel about it. Second, observe. In order to absorb new beginnings, it is important to observe more, for it makes you more conscious of how you can deal with particular situations. 

Be sure to communicate your needs 

As you enter a marriage, you are exposed to a whole new set-up. This is why, it is essential that you state your needs, wants, and expectations beforehand and communicate them to your partner. Better communication will save you both a lot of hassle. Additionally, it will be easier for people around you to understand where you’re coming from. 

Be more flexible

As much as the words ‘comprise’ and ‘adjustment’ make us cringe, especially when spoken about in the context of marriage, the truth is, one has to move a few things around and make small adjustments for the sake of the process. Now, when we say this, we don’t mean that you’re required to shift your life-long ambitions and morals. But adjustments like (sometimes) letting go of your partner's icky habits or being flexible with your schedules can help you build a healthier marriage. 

Financial planning 

When we talk about changes that marriage can bring, it also includes finances. Thus, sitting down to create a budget plan that covers your income, expenses, savings, and loans might be a good idea. Additionally, discussing your financial goals might help you have a clearer idea of what your future may look like.